Friday, November 21, 2008

My boy and his "posse"

I have always hoped for friends for Connor.  Just like all parents hope their children will find friendship.  But unlike other parents, I always feared it would never happen.  Or if it did happen, it would be setup by me - a kind of "fake" friendship.  And then, miracles of all miracles, I witnessed my boy and his "posse".  

Last night we went to Frankie's 4th grade music show.  We got settled on the bleachers when an adorable 1st grade girl came excitedly over to Connor and sat with him.  He was happy to see her!  Then an awesome 2nd grade boy said hi to Connor and sat with him too.  And then, a darling girl from his class came over and sat with the group.  She giggled at what Connor said.  I WAS IN HEAVEN!!  Can you tell how excited I was?  

Jim and I relaxed and enjoyed the music program.  Frankie wasn't nervous and you could tell she was having fun singing.  Connor and his friends enjoyed the music too. Jim and I basked in the glow of what we once thought was impossible - Connor connecting with other kids, and kids wanting to connect with Connor.  What a gift that hour was for me.  I guess I need to raise my expectations of what Connor CAN do, and not get mired down in what I think he can't do.  He certainly showed me last night, didn't he?

1 comment:

LAA and Family said...

That is terrific! I was always pleased at how the other children in Samuel's class and at his school treated him. I'm glad we still get to go to his former school for speech therapy.

It's harder to try and cultivate friendships now that we are doing school at home, so I'm glad that he has his two brothers to pal around with. I'll be putting more effort into social groups and things like that.

I found you in the "followers" of my blog. Nice to meet you! My Mom's family is from Cicero and I lived in your area briefly many years ago as a child (in Bolingbrook back in the early '70s).